Weekend update part I
Jan. 29th, 2006 02:06 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
profundisHad a nice coffee date yesterday with a cute pocketdaddybear sort. We had a really good conversation, so much so that I felt like I was an auctioneer trying to jam in every thought at super-speed to cover all the bases. Whew! LOL, might have also been the chai latte, I shoulda got decaf. ;) He was doing the same thing, so it was all good.
After my micro-rant about "erotic massage" the other day, wouldn't you know this feller was all into it at one time and taught classes in it, etc. So yeah, we had a very interesting discussion of our take on it, the POV's surrounding it, the ramifications, etc etc.
I can't say I'm any more in favor of it thah I was before *as practiced in a professional session* (personal un-hired time is a whole 'nother story) but now I *can* say that I at least have some understanding of where its proponents might be coming from (no pun intended) and what needs it serves beyond the obvious.
I also realized that to understand someone's POV is not ncessarily to agree with it, and to respect it is not ncessarily to endorse it, and that's perfectly fine. We don't all have to agree or support one another to be civil, or even friendly. We just have to shut up for a second and listen to the other person's story. There is almost always a common thread or theme that we can at least say "hey that's not what *I* would have done there, but I can see why *you* would do it in that circumstance."
The best part is that when he got home and sent me a thank you IM, he said he'd had the very same experience from our convo! LOL! Pretty cool.
On a less happy note, I got the last of my art back from Borders today. I understand them wanting to do something different after an unprecedented 13 month display, so it's all good.
After my micro-rant about "erotic massage" the other day, wouldn't you know this feller was all into it at one time and taught classes in it, etc. So yeah, we had a very interesting discussion of our take on it, the POV's surrounding it, the ramifications, etc etc.
I can't say I'm any more in favor of it thah I was before *as practiced in a professional session* (personal un-hired time is a whole 'nother story) but now I *can* say that I at least have some understanding of where its proponents might be coming from (no pun intended) and what needs it serves beyond the obvious.
I also realized that to understand someone's POV is not ncessarily to agree with it, and to respect it is not ncessarily to endorse it, and that's perfectly fine. We don't all have to agree or support one another to be civil, or even friendly. We just have to shut up for a second and listen to the other person's story. There is almost always a common thread or theme that we can at least say "hey that's not what *I* would have done there, but I can see why *you* would do it in that circumstance."
The best part is that when he got home and sent me a thank you IM, he said he'd had the very same experience from our convo! LOL! Pretty cool.
On a less happy note, I got the last of my art back from Borders today. I understand them wanting to do something different after an unprecedented 13 month display, so it's all good.
